I believe that the key to becoming better mentally is realizing and becoming aware of what it is that is unhealthy. Not many people are aware of how important mental health is. I will start by saying this, a couple years back I was mentally unhealthy. I was not at all happy with who I was and how I looked. From that, I developed an eating disorder. Some people will say eating disorders aren’t real but they truly are. That was my lowest point mentally. I remember feeling so empty and unimportant. I never knew caring for my mind would actually help. Little did I know that once I tried being healthier and once I regained the positivity and love within myself it truly changed my life. Keep in mind medicine cannot fix this, it has to come from within. The way I did it was I ate healthier, I started working out, surrounding my self with people who made me happy and loved every inch of my body and soul. The biggest thing is to identify the problem within yourself and the problem with your mindset and fix it as best as you can and become better for it. Because we all have imperfections, negativity, problems, and countless other things that weigh us down. You just have to be there to pick yourself back up because life is too short to think about negative things that will eventually lead to an unhealthy state of mind. If anyone reading this struggles with mental health, I’m telling you to take the first step. Start to plan for the future, take care of your body, love your flaws, and do whatever it is that makes you happy and blissful. With this first step you will start to see the huge effect it has on your mentality and how much of an improvement it will make with your mental health. Your mind is the key to everything so please take care of it and make sure it is healthy for your own sake.
Religion is the platform of my everyday life. I never used to pay much attention to my religion or really go into depth on what it was. Throughout my whole life, religion was something that was always there and that I acknowledged but never practiced fully. I never did anything against my religion but I also never tried to learn more or practice it the right way. My life is not perfect nor do I ever claim that it is. Through the years I’ve had many hardships and mountains I’ve needed to overcome. Often times I never knew how to make it over these barriers and I always felt like I was missing guidance and purpose. It took me a while to realize but religion became something I went to for release and guidance. I became more interested- drawn to it in a way. From this I saw an immense change in my spirituality and life. To this day I keep my prayer up. I try to be someone God would be proud of. My religion has taught me so much and I am grateful to have found it through hardships. At some point in life you need to realize there’s a greater purpose and to dive deeper into that purpose for the betterment of yourself. I still have ways to grow in my religion but I am happy with the way my religious journey has taken me so far. If you ever feel lost, alone, scared, broken, or in need of emotional release, I truly believe religion is the best way to go about it. Religion has strengthened my heart and mind and it has touched my soul more deeply than I had ever thought possible.
Do you believe love exists in a partner? There are so many different types of love but the love I want to speak on is the type shared between you and a significant other. Love is complex. It’s not the typical ‘I love you and you love me’. I can love anyone and receive the same thing back. The key is how to make that love eternal and unique. So many people fall in love but it’s harder to stay in love. Love is just a feeling. The word ‘Love’ is so misused in this day in age, and it creates conflict between true lovers. Instead of understanding and loving the right way, love is twisted to be taught in a way where it is sure to break. The love you seek should be deeper than the surface. Rather than loving the outside and small fragments of the inside, love the mind. Whoever you decide to love, make that love unique. Because if love can be so easily replaced then it won’t mean a thing and someone else can offer the same love you received. I would rather give love than receive it, because if I receive it wrong I won’t want it at all. In order for love to remain strong and everlasting you must keep loving the person you fell for, and remind yourself the things you love about them. Once you get comfortable and you both just love each other then there forms a kind of bond that is more so friendly than it should be. Never get too comfortable, always remind yourself the reasons you love that person. Build and keep building. Do not build a home and never remodel its insides or update it once in a while. Because leaving a house the same for so long, causes the house to slowly rust and break. So I do believe love exists, but I believe that only few know how to keep it existing. Because love is much more than ‘I love you’, it’s all about the levels of floors you decide to conquer and overcome while still managing to be and stay in love.
Hate will never stop, jealousy will always live, negativity will always grow, and nobody will truly know. What everyone needs to understand is that nobody has a perfect life. Envy will get you nowhere. Hating on others will only hurt you. Negativity will portray life in a bad light. Nobody will truly know what is going on with you. Try to find love in the things you hate. Ask yourself why you hate them, seeing as hate is a very heavy word. Try to be happy for others instead of envious. Try to be optimistic in a time where all you see are negatives. Try to focus on yourself, rather then wasting your time trying to figure out others’ lives. Trust me, life would be so much easier if we just loved each other rather than hurt one another.
The greatest title of all is not King or Queen, but Mother. Almost two years ago I was given the best gift I could ever ask for- the gift of life. I carried life for 9 months and I brought my baby into this world with the blessing of God. If I could, I would do it a million times over. When I first got pregnant I remember feeling scared, anxious, happy, excited, and a million more emotions that I could never put into words. I am honored to have been the vessel to bring my son into this world. God chose me and I am forever in His debt. Being a mom is a constant learning experience- from learning how to change diapers, to finding certain tricks to make him sleep easier. In the beginning, I had to search up everything when I wasn’t sure what to do, and if he got sick I would immediately take him to the doctor. Now, my baby is 1 year and 4 months and I’m calmer and handling everything easier! It’s all a learning experience, but I’m still learning new things every day! It’s such a beautiful journey. For all the mothers out there, come to understand what is important in life and what isn’t. Your child needs you and needs to have the best version of you. I am the best version of myself because of my son, I am his role model. He’s my lifeline and the embodiment of my heart.
I always get asked, “How are you so strong and positive?” My response always varies but relatively it’s the same message. I think every being has strength but some don’t need to use it. The people who have to use their strength and own it are the ones who have been hurt before or put through difficult times. Every person has their own struggles and battles, but it’s how you handle them that really matters. I think addressing whatever it is you’re going through and acknowledging it is how to be strong. Don’t avoid things. Face them head on. I am strong because of the things that have gone on in my life. I’ve learned from them and I pray they don’t happen again. Being strong can be very hard at times but never forget who you are and how amazing of a human you are. Always look at the positives in your life. Now, why am I so positive? I’ll tell you. I used to be such a negative person. All I saw- for the most part- were the bad things in my life. I was so pessimistic. But I changed for the better and now I make it my goal to be happier every day. What really made me so positive was telling myself that no matter what happens, everything has beauty. Even if something is bad or negative, I always look for the beauty in it. If I’m having a bad day, I look at the positive things that happened and I let them outweigh all the negatives. Why should I get bothered by things when life is so short to be bothered by anything? I would much rather enjoy being on this beautiful earth than ever let a negative thought run through my mind again. Being strong and positive is a choice. Choose to be happy. No matter what comes your way, always choose happiness.
“You are the embodiment of my heart, I never knew love could flow through every part. You carry a light that only a painter would dream to capture your art. Where do I start? I’ll start by saying every moment of every second I think of you, ever since I laid my eyes on you, my life changed drastic hues, no matter what happens there is nothing we can’t get through. I hope I will be the only one you turn to, when you get sad i’ll be the one to hand you a tissue. The moment I held that small little body I knew; that every piece of my heart belongs to you. Never forget mommy loves you, our love will always be true.”-J.V.